The Independence Conundrum

Moving out is a big step isn’t it!

So great to finally get the time and space to do what you want! Partying til 7:00 am and then grabbing a shower to head out to work for 9:00am! And the best part? No one to wonder why you are not home yet – isn’t single life the GREATEST!

And it really sucks when there is laundry to be done, and cleaning to be done…and housework.

If I had wanted to do housework, I would have gotten MARRIED! Sweet beehive of love, no! I moved out to go out.  Now I am too poor to hang out.  CASE IN POINT: I spent no money on clothes bought a headband, did not lime went cinema ONCE this month, did not eat out…as much.  And I cannot wait for pay-day.  I am literally too scared to go to the grocery.

So where is the line, people? Where is the line? I need more money for sure.  Unfortunately/Fortunately, I love where I work.  So I would be hard-pressed to leave for the sake of just a thousand dollars more…MOMMY!!! I appreciate you!!!! MAMMAY! Anyhow, back to being a grown up – I have learned to cook (a bit).  Therefore, all the liming now takes place at my house.  Where I cook.  If I am lucky, I can get help with the dishes.

Anyhow, the path that you have planned for yourself is never as smooth as you wish it to be.  After all, was it not that esteemed philosopher, Stephen King, that said that dreamers fade faster than dreams? Well, I think that if I keep getting paid to work in a great industry, with a great boss, and keep trying to be cheap economical.  After all, I have recently discovered that Rachel Ray gives awesome cooking advice, and I made my very own pizza crust from scratch, yo! just this week.

Just remember to add oregano.  Life is a little better with oregano.

Relationships are like Sweating

I don’t believe that relationships should be entirely unconditional.

I believe that relationships should have some give and take on both sides.  Unfortunately, this sounds like work with someone maintaining a scoreboard.  Therefore, because people are lazy, they take the easy way out and say love is unconditional.

Love is unconditional, however, people are not.  And when two people decide to be together, things happen.  It is a clash of personalities, beliefs, and needs.  It is also territorial warfare.  But seriously, <insert title here>.

Relationships are like sweating.  You have to put back in what is taken out.  If I am constantly giving love, attention and affection, it has been said that if I truly love and believe that I would not expect anything back.  That is not true.  If I do not receive any form of love, affection and attention, then I would feel unappreciated, and very much like an idiot.  So is it really unconditional?

Sheer nonsense.  Relationships are like sweating.  You sweat to cool your body to an optimum temperature.  Doing so means that you lose water and electrolytes.  If you do not replace the water, you become dehydrated.  If you do not replace the electrolytes in your body you can suffer from

nausea and vomiting, headache, confusion, lethargy, fatigue, appetite loss, restlessness and irritability, muscle weakness, spasms, or cramps, seizures, and decreased consciousness or coma.

– Wikipedia

So, tell me again how love is unconditional and asks for nothing?  Poppycock.  Relationships, like sweating,  require balance and if you truly love, then you will find a way to create said balance.

– Report mature post (not add one)

Boy do I feel a little silly!  In relation to my ‘add mature post’, that’s, um, not what the link said.

As you can see from the title, I clearly read the wrong thing and went off on a tangent.  When I was done laughing, I realised something: have you ever realised that if you see a rare sight you tell everybody?  With the internet being what it is these days, and the majority of comments being “FIRST”, and a myriad of chain comments, REPORT A MATURE POST!

It is a rare sighting and would be refreshing to all concerned.

Boredom is a silent killer – ask your doctor if fun is right for you

Boredom is a silent killer that is affecting our communities and the world at large.

Just reflect on all the dumb things that you have done while bored.  I have dyed my hair fire engine red – no really – that was the name on the box. My hair was so fried for months, my coworkers called me “Flame On” which was detrimental to my psyche.

Boredom explains the rise in extreme sports which are called that because they are extremely dangerous.  This is due partly to the fact that there is little adherence to safety measure.  You get your kicks where you can.  Boredom also explains drinking until you are beyond all the good reasons for drinking that leaves you practically poisoned.

A lot of the crime rate has been explained by boredom.  Children are enrolled into all sorts of sporting activities to “keep them off the street”.  all well and good, but what happens outside of the hours of these activities?  Child killers often explain their crimes as being a way of trying to relieve the boredom.  I am not endorsing any of this crap from them though.

I honestly believe that boredom is the refuge of the unimaginative mind.  Go to Wikipedia and find some random topic to become an expert in.  Find a new hobby.  I don’t necessarily mean that you need to make one up.  Just find something that is new to you and do it.  Foreign film festival, some kind of craft hobbies, gardening, etc.  The list is endless and I want to spend a special shout out to all my friends who help me when I am bored:- en.wikipedia.org, about.com, eHow.com etc.  I could probably file all of this under “Internet”, but I wanted to be specific.

However, there can be some side effects to all this:

  • withdrawal from your social circle – because you are busy learning
  • a learning curve – because you are learning something new
  • new friends, and a new social learning curve – new friends means getting to know other people
  • fun and excitement
  • happiness

From the above list you can tell that fun is just not for everyone.  Ask your doctor if fun is right for you.