Hillary

I could quote you multiple paragraphs on why I love Hillary Clinton and why she means so much as a role model to me.

There is an old joke about why both men and women love her: to women, she is a smart, powerful woman.  To men: her husband cheated on her and she let him get away with it.  But really, the goal of a woman in the 21st century is not to sit idly by as society marches on, it is to get up and create change in society.  To be a discreet lady has its merits, you would make a damned good spy, but a woman such as Hillary has the tendency to polarize.  Public opinion is either love her or hate her.  There usually is no middle ground.  (Do I admire her because I see myself in her? Maybe)

Recently, she came under fire for not wearing makeup in public.  Tim Gunn, Mr. Make-It-Work, himself has criticised her for her lack of fashion knowledge.  I love Tim, and fashion is his whole world. Poor Tim, the world needs more than just a beautiful woman to run it.  This world needs women with balls to do unprecedented things like make greater efforts to recruit more black students and staff at Wellesley back in the 60’s.  Her postgraduate work on children’s rights is still quoted when discussing children’s competence.  For the record, balls ain’t pretty.
Her beauty for me lies beyond the magic of makeup and Photoshop.  She is the ideal woman, the Galatea if you will.  Even the Bible supports my case for her as the modern-day virtuous woman:

            • Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies (Her salary will attest to that)
            • She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.(Her pro bono work with child advocacy while still bringing in an income)
            • She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
            • Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. (um, Bill?)
            • She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant. (She isn’t a Kardashian, so maybe not this one)

This is a woman who has endured harsh criticism all her public life.  From not understanding culturally significant music (to southerners), to seeming to bash homemakers, she has led the gamut of criticism.  Now to bash her for her bravery to show her real face in public?  Really?  Has humanity really sunk that low?

I do not care.  I am not some blind sheep that will look past her mistakes and indiscretions.  I have chosen to pursue my education, think independently, stand up for what I believe in, protect those who I can, and hold on to my identity as a person.  That is what being a role model is about.  And hopefully, some woman in the future will write a clumsy, heartfelt blog on the way I changed her life.

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Body Image and Media

On Facebook, a fellow group member shared something that has forced me to look inward: “I find lately everywhere I turn, messages are telling me I am not a real woman…#doomed..”…this is for her.

My response was that the media has its own agenda and that as a woman, actually, as an individual we should figure out our own agendas and not deviate from it.  What is the media’s agenda?  I don’t know.  After all, men are required to be violent, sexist, racist, and homophobic.  Women are expected to give on-demand blow jobs, make a sandwich and shut up – not necessarily in that order.

The fashion industry coupled with the entertainment industry seems to be geared towards creating a negative body image among the 99%.  Not just that, I have noticed a disturbing trend among non-stereotypically beautiful who now sow hate in their hearts for those that are stereotypically beautiful.  If you cannot accept another person for being beautiful, then how do you expect to love yourself when time wreaks its havoc over all that you held to be true and beautiful?  Coco Rocha is tall, slim, and white – she is beautiful.  Jill Scott is curvy, talented and black – she is beautiful.  Michelle Yeoh is tall, slim, and Chinese – she is also beautiful.  Alicia Keys is curvy, talented and mixed – she is also beautiful.  Sophia Loren is Italian, curvy, 60 and still sexier than most 20-year-olds.

What is your agenda?  Who are you now vs. where you want to be?  Figure out your agenda and work towards it.  One morning, I woke up and decided to be beautiful.  I understood my own beauty was not mirrored in the fashion magazines or on television.  I was told I was too smart to be beautiful.  I decided to cover my mirror and turn my mental headphones to LOUD!  I was now marching to the music of my own inner peace.  I smiled a gap-toothed, coffee-stained smile and declared myself beautiful.

–ND